Sorry that you are feeling this way! Could you email your T and explain how you are feeling? Not making excuses for your T but maybe she is unaware of how you are feeling and how some of her actions are causing you pain and by bringing it to her attention it may help! I wouldn't go accusing her of anything I would merely explain how I had been feeling and ask whether she felt the same way. Her response would give you a clear idea as to whether its time to move on or she is wanting to understand and continue to work with you. Its hard but it will just eat away at you if you don't say anything and it will impact your therapy unconsciously, so I think its important to talk to her about it all! Judging by your T's response of saying you hadn't screwed up and that she appreciates you asking for what you need, I think she will welcome your honesty!