Thanks. I think a T has to have a natural way of showing she cares, being able to say something nice, not just ask questions that is useful for therapy. I think they should have a natural and warm way of greeting and welcoming a client and also saying goodbye in a nice way, perhaps wishing you a nice weekend and something like that.
Yes, thatīs right, it was the first time she forgot about the handshake.
My T is within psychodynamic therapy and that she tells about herself I think is just a technique she has developed herself, it doesnīt seem that professional or that sheīs able to determine if her technique is useful or not.
I would never want a T who was a blank slate but a T telling stories is to me mostly using techniques. Itīs a way of "fooling" the client to believe they share something in confidence but actually itīs just a way of making the client talk.
I canīt tell my T that much of opinions about therapy as sheīs the only one at the clinic and we have already had some weeks where we evaluated therapy and when there was a question about ending therapy.
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Originally Posted by hiddencreations
What behaviors could your therapist do to indicate that they are more there at a human level for you?
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Has your T forgotten the handshake several times or one time? When I read your OP is sounds like this was the first time.
You mentioned that you want a genuine connection--human to human. Part of that is knowing that your T is human, just like you, and because they are they will make mistakes or forget. As humans we don't always realize that for some people it's in the details or that the small things do matter. Is it a faux pas to assume what matters to others? Yes, but it is all in human error. If a T never made small mistakes, had a faux pas, or forgot to do something, that seems more robotic and mechanical to me.
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What style/theory does your therapist use? Sometimes therapist will use their own story in order to make a connection with their client or to demonstrate how to handle a situation, this doesn't always work but for some it is better than the therapist who just sits there and is a blank slate.
Have you told your T that the stories don't help? You may have to assert yourself there if it is not helping.
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