Thanks. I think one have to be open to both perspectives, that part of it is my own experience and my own thoughts and part of it is as you say therapy manipulation and technique.

As I´ve hoped for a connection I haven´t been enough attentive to her techniques, to see through her but instead I´ve seen it as she likes me and not that I´m a working material for her.

My T really puts an effort in taking examples from her own life which I generally like but I will try to remind myself of that she´s talking about issues she have had perhaps 20 years ago or issues she easily solved and that it hasn´t really got anything to do with me.

Thanks. I think a T has to have a natural way of showing she cares, being able to say something nice, not just ask questions that is useful for therapy. I think they should have a natural and warm way of greeting and welcoming a client and also saying goodbye in a nice way, perhaps wishing you a nice weekend and something like that.

Yes, that´s right, it was the first time she forgot about the handshake.

My T is within psychodynamic therapy and that she tells about herself I think is just a technique she has developed herself, it doesn´t seem that professional or that she´s able to determine if her technique is useful or not.

I would never want a T who was a blank slate but a T telling stories is to me mostly using techniques. It´s a way of "fooling" the client to believe they share something in confidence but actually it´s just a way of making the client talk.

I can´t tell my T that much of opinions about therapy as she´s the only one at the clinic and we have already had some weeks where we evaluated therapy and when there was a question about ending therapy.