Thanks. That was a good expression "benevolent manipulation". I donīt think all clients knows about this or how much of techniques there are behind sitting there and communicating with clients. Some T:s are good at being as genuine as possible but many T:s are not and when doing mistakes it becomes evident how the role as a client and the role as a T is really different.
I think if itīs possible as a client to accept that most of the caring is fake and that the T has no personal connection to you, itīs easier to stand therapy. As Iīm very lonely therapy becomes another dimension of loneliness as itīs a fake relationship. I have no solution to how to relate to that.
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Originally Posted by Daisy Dead Petals
I too struggle with the "benevolent manipulation" of therapy. I had a former T who was very heavy handed with technique and I found it annoying and triggering. I don't think there's anything wrong with wanting a warmer and more authentic T, especially if you have a history of attachment trauma.
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