Thanks. That was a good expression "benevolent manipulation". I don´t think all clients knows about this or how much of techniques there are behind sitting there and communicating with clients. Some T:s are good at being as genuine as possible but many T:s are not and when doing mistakes it becomes evident how the role as a client and the role as a T is really different.

I think if it´s possible as a client to accept that most of the caring is fake and that the T has no personal connection to you, it´s easier to stand therapy. As I´m very lonely therapy becomes another dimension of loneliness as it´s a fake relationship. I have no solution to how to relate to that.