I understand your point of view, but it really is sometimes NOT possible for some of us to tell the truth of how others come across compassionately and thoughtfully. And I personally do not want that in private, I want it in a safe, "public" space with other people where I can consider the other person's point of view and "take what I want and leave the rest". In a one-on-one situation I would simply feel shamed and like I had to accede to the other person's point of view or lose the relationship, even if we didn't have much of one. Maybe lose their positive regard would be another way of putting it. To experience that "in public" has helped me get over some sensitivity to shame, maybe. It's very hard to describe but I think it's well-acknowledged that people with personality disorders are "different" -- I believe that it's more possible for us to "change" than is realized today, perhaps because the kind of help that we need for that is not "normal".

People are different, their temperaments are different, and how we have developed and been socialized is different. Especially if PC had it set up in a special forum or social group where people had to acknowledge the risks -- perhaps you could enumerate the ones you can think of -- then it might work? Don't you think it might be worth an experiment for some of us in this particular population (people with personality disorders)?

I believe there is already some good "evidence", or at least suggestive examples, of how this has worked for positive change in the NPD forum and some in the non-specific general Personality Place forum as well if you want to take a look at that.