He's been video gaming forever and it can be all consuming with him as well. But the bigger problem is that he just can't concern himself with things that actually take patience and time to do...like looking for the cats and making sure they are in. Last night it was 8:30 and we had just finished eating and I said to him "I'm going to clean up the kitchen and then go to bed. Can you get the cats inside while I do that?" He goes "No that's your job. I'm going to go sit on the computer and then go to bed". I say "I have to do it every night" and he goes "Well you're the one who decided they need to stay inside at night". OMG! Really? We lose 2 cats in 6 months, most likely due to predators getting them at night, and now you can't be bothered to get them inside because it takes too much work? A week ago when we were on vacation and left them alone for 3 days to go in and out as they please he was freaking out saying "Oh I hope they'll be okay. Can you call the neighbors to make sure that they are all still there when they come in to feed them?" and now he acts like they'll do whatever they do and we'll just have to hope they come home.

ANYTHING requiring patience is something he won't do. I couldn't get him to fill out applications when he was out of work, he won't pursue anything if it isn't given to him immediately. He told his daughter that if she wanted to go study in Europe for a semester that he'd pay for it but she'd have to do all the leg work involved in finding out how to go about it, how to get there, where to stay. He didn't give a damn in knowing anything about it, but would throw money at her and wish her well if she went, most likely rarely speaking to her while she was away. Of course she had no idea where to start so that went nowhere. Even when I was living long distance and engaged to him and I told him I'd move out when his annulment was finished, it took him nearly 2 years to get that done. He kept giving me excuses as to why it was taking so long, but now I know it's because he didn't want to work on it.