Hi Fuzzy,
There is something that you own (relatively, off course): your present, your goals, your schedule and deadlines. They are yours, and not the property of those who hurt you that much. When setting your goals and deadlines tell them to shut up. I know they speak, those who hurt me speak to me, too. All the time. But we can tell them to shut up. If needed, we shout out! It is an exercise we have to do again and again.
Or, we can have no goals at all! We own ourselves, we decide.
And, you are loved here.