Hi, jjgbirder, thank you for sharing.

I fear making mistakes, as well. Plenty of mistakes have led me to change the time line of my life. But it is important to know that there is no shame in having to those changes. I try to think of those mistakes objectively and identify the good in them, as well as what I have to fix. I then pride myself on the good, and make a solid plan (in writing to make it concrete!) to adjust my future actions in an attempt to not make the same mistake. Even if I improve only a little, I again pride myself about the improvement, and readjust my plan again.

This process was far from easy, and I could not have done it without help from my therapist, friends, and family (I luckily have a few friends/family members who will give it to me straight!). But it has certainly helped me to achieve success, and I hope what has helped me can do the same for you!