Wow, this guy is worse than I thought. You have to speak in just the right tone? And you're not supposed to hang out with family or friends? I'ld give him some tone alright!

This guy sounds like a control freak. Unless you want a life of tip-toeing around on eggshells - which is a miserable existance - you need to break him of the notion that he will control you. And he may be a guy who won't stay with a woman he can't control. In that case, I would hand him his hat and show him to the door.

Controllers have deep down insecurity, but it's the kind you can never alleviate with reassurance. And stop feeling bad for him. Probably no relationship is perfectly 50/50. But I'll bet you've been going way more than half-way to meet him. Pull back, and let him knock himself out trying.

My wild guess is that you can probably do better. Feel free to decide you want more in a man, and that he just doesn't have it.