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Originally Posted by Teddy:)
Sorry that you are feeling this way! Could you email your T and explain how you are feeling? Not making excuses for your T but maybe she is unaware of how you are feeling and how some of her actions are causing you pain and by bringing it to her attention it may help! I wouldn't go accusing her of anything I would merely explain how I had been feeling and ask whether she felt the same way. Her response would give you a clear idea as to whether its time to move on or she is wanting to understand and continue to work with you. Its hard but it will just eat away at you if you don't say anything and it will impact your therapy unconsciously, so I think its important to talk to her about it all! Judging by your T's response of saying you hadn't screwed up and that she appreciates you asking for what you need, I think she will welcome your honesty!
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Thank you, I think you are right. I did draft a really long email to T explaining how she has a tendency to say things that she then retracts and that I am worried about her promising me things that she can't do, such as continuing to see me after retirement. I left it in my draft folder and am now glad I didn't send it yet. Because I'm wondering whether this is just a part of therapy and that since in other ways she is a fantastic therapist, I just need to learn to deal with her inconsistencies and appreciate what I have with her. And just try my hardest to trust that she won't let me down in the long run. Trust is a massively difficult thing for me so maybe it's just something I have to learn.