Back to my two girlfriends. I have a tentative date to go out with them both this week. E called me yesterday and said that she just can't stand to keep the date and go out with C because C is so totally toxic. She has been calling E, giving her unwanted advice about how she doesn't know how to parent and how E's boyfriend needs counseling. C still didn't pay E back the $300 she borrowed, yet she is calling this date her birthday celebration and expecting us for pay for her.

So I told E that if she wants we can blow off C, telling her we canceled the date and still see each other. Or we can tell C that she has to pay for herself, which might cause her to cancel the date if she has no money. And that C doesn't deserve better treatment because she is such a toxic user.

I can tell C that she better lay off us and be on best behavior or else, and she sometimes can comply when she knows she's walking a fine line.

Why do we keep this toxic friend you ask? It's another difficult relationship I maintain. And it felt validating to hear she does the same thing to E that she does to me.