Haha, grandfathered in. I never heard that one.

I just had a bad interaction with my oldest and "best friend" -- we met when we were 5 years old, and have decades upon decades of life between us.

This friend emailed me that she thought of me as a "sister" then proceeded to do her same old toxic dance.

Personally, I find toxic boring now. I think maybe I wouldn't mind boring boring.

My sister was very toxic and right up until her death two years ago she was manipulative and controlling, and a narcissist. I allowed more closeness during her illness but I paid the price because she just did all the same old damaging **** right up until the end.

I did a lot of personal work and I think the more you do that the less interesting these people are.

Having said all this...I do believe my "best friend" is grandfathered in for life. Haha. I never heard this expression. Thanks for making me smile today.

I mean I was angry as hell at my friend and now I am trying to think of what cute thing I can send her for Xmas. We are thousands of miles apart. If we lived in the same geographic area I am certain I would probably avoid her. Such is life.