I'm a 21 year old bisexual and still have yet to come out to my family. I found that for my particular situation, it's not necessary. I found my bisexuality to not be significant to my life in the sense that I need to be confessional about it. It's as much a part of me as having blonde hair and brown eyes, but I don't need to announce it to the world, either.

It sounds like a very different situation for you, though, especially being a lesbian with parents who might have caught on. And ESPECIALLY b/c you'll never have a boyfriend, so questions are more likely to be raised.

If you believe it's going to eat you alive if you don't tell them, then you must sit them down and have a talk. Not to scare you or anything, but I would advise having a close friend on call, just in case your family ousts you.

Or, maybe you can wait. Do you plan on going to college? Maybe you should join the Gay/Lesbian group there and get advice from them. Are there Gay/Lesbian groups that meet in your neighborhood? Maybe you can get advice on this from them, too.

Hands down, though, don't go about this alone. Have friends to back you up, a support group with experience in this realm that's given you advice, and make sure those who are willing to support you will be there for you during this trying time, no matter what happens.

Best of luck babe.