Marriage means different things to different people. They marry for a variety of reasons and it's not up to me to decide if their reasons are valid enough. Marriage is becoming obsolete over time. For some it's obsolete now. Throughout history people have married for a variety of reasons (financial, political, love, forced) love means different things to different people. Family might be viewed as more important than a lover to some, but not everyone has family or feels that way. I think it's healthy for you to discover your own feelings on love and marriage. We all view things in unique ways and these shade our world in profound ways. Keep learning what you think and feel.