My boyfriend and I had a similar conversation.

Me: "Oh man, the Navy is gonna be so good for you. I mean, you'll make money, you'll have the status you've wanted, you'll like what your doing, and hell, you'll get your butt kicked and grow up a bit!"

Oops.

That conversation ended up turning into a....Really, really, pointless debate. Who's more mature? Who's mature enough for their age?

What?

It's retarded, I know. But sometimes, I noticed, we are more likely to point out eachothers faults that positive qualities. Maybe you should suggest that you two should try and say something positive about one another at least once a day. Maybe after having one of these fights that would be the best time to do it.

Also, try and admit to your own faults, but don't assume that he should if you do. Be as modest as possible. Set an example as best you can. If he cannot follow your lead in taking control of your bad habits or flaws, then maybe he's the problem.

Compromise may be painful and feel unnecessary, especially if you believe you've done no wrong, but loosing him might be worse than compromising. Try your best to look out for you, and change yourself for the better. Encourage him when need be. Nothing can come out of pointing out eachothers flaws, and say that to him. But, make sure you don't do it yourself obviously, ha.

Best of luck, I hope you two find your way.