Yes, he was a best-selling author in 1992--doesn't mean that his theories are valuable to the field or considered valid. Ron Hubbard is a best-selling author, would I trust him with my psychological well-being? Probably not.

Unconditional positive regard in the world of psychology does not mean that the therapist always loves their client's actions or that they like their clients. It when the therapist respects the client's autonomy and ability to make their own decisions. That is the Rogerian definition of unconditional positive regard. It is possible to give without manipulation of the client.

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I've NEVER had a therapist that attempts to re-parent me. Re-parenting means that the therapist is encouraging a sort of regression to childhood in order to resolve a problem or to have a need met that wasn't. I believe it is more common to have the client self-parent which is when the client themselves learn to fulfill the needs that weren't met.

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I realize that you dislike or have a distrust of the field of therapy, and it is definitely within your right to do so. But I feel like if I were to give you a list of what therapist are doing, you'd find a reason as to why that isn't possible.

Anyway, what are most effective therapist doing? Trying to empower their client to make changes in their life by providing a space where they can feel safe to talk about their issues or experiences. Therapist don't have to provide love to their client to do this.