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Originally Posted by hiddencreations
I've NEVER had a therapist that attempts to re-parent me. Re-parenting means that the therapist is encouraging a sort of regression to childhood in order to resolve a problem or to have a need met that wasn't. I believe it is more common to have the client self-parent which is when the client themselves learn to fulfill the needs that weren't met.
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I don't disagree that self-parenting is the goal. But I suspect the client learns this partly by seeing the therapist model empathy, acceptance, and advocacy for damaged / younger parts of the client. At least, it was so in my case. Even while the goal was for me to learn to take care of all that myself, there was still a period of dependency when I was learning to do this because my T was doing it. He was modeling it. This worked for me, but I can recognize the danger involved if I'd had a lesser T or if the process had for some reason been cut short by termination. I would have had the regression piece, but not yet the self-parenting skills. Hope this makes sense.