Those topics are definitely things that need to be ironed out before marriage.


It's not light stuff that you can just stumble and bumble your way through.


It's make or break topics, so best you two start talking, reach an agreement or compromise within two months, or postpone the wedding until it has been figured out.


You don't seem to be avoiding commitment, on the contrary, you seem like you want to be absolutely sure you're taking the right steps to make the commitment last.