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Old Oct 21, 2016, 04:56 AM
Anonymous37970
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Hi, just an update. It's been a while. Things are going better. A few melt-downs seem to have brought us closer together, and at some point we admitted that it's hard to deal with each other when we both feel hurt by one another.

I have the feeling now that my boyfriend is very sensitive, which seems to be underlying a lot of what he does. It comes out when we fight, for sure. Hiding in his room seems to be a way of hiding away from everyone. I've learned that he's been hiding in his room this way forever, even as a kid. He told me that talking to people over the internet is much easier than in person.

I'm still open to the idea that we might break up after the semester, but I feel a lot calmer about the idea.

Now when he spends so much time alone, I do the same. I'm starting to distance myself from him and trying to spend most of the day not thinking about him or checking texts. I'm trying to get my old life back now.

I don't know if it'll work out. But most of me really does want it to work out. That's why I keep fighting to be with him so much, even if I'm really hurt by what he does.

Oh yeah, he is doing chores now when I ask. Props to him.

I'm also doing less so that he has to. Like dishes, I won't do those as much.

He is talking more about getting a higher-paying job now, so I'll support him in his decision to do that.

I had multiple talks about why he wants to stay with me, and I gave him my answers for why I want to stay with him in return. He does have good reasons to stay with me. He says he can be more open with me than his guy friends, as well, which I admit is true.

I'll just pray for things, and try to not focus so much on the negative now, and try to enjoy my life. I can try to think more of the good times between him and I, for now.

I'm doing good in my schoolwork, and I'm focusing on that more. And my hobbies. If we drift apart in the process, or I'm still very upset, I'll have to break up.
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Bill3, Rose76
Thanks for this!
Bill3, Rose76