Granite,

I hear you. It really really sucks to not have caring family, especially parental figures.

I do feel your T jumped the gun out of protective feelings when you said you want your mother.

Of course a part of us, sometimes a big huge part, does hope the uncaring parent will have an epiphany and start caring and loving us. No matter how cruel a parent is, as children we had to keep hope alive to survive.

Your feelings of wanting love and care from family are completely valid. I hope you can talk with T again and express these feelings with her providing you a safe space.

Edited to add... Also I've spoken with my T about how no matter how I've friends, my SO and T, they cannot fill the space of wanting the parents' love. That is a loss I have to grieve...what I didn't get, and might never get.