God do i hate it when people tell me things like that;
or to be invalidated by my dad when he says things like "I had to suffer my whole life too"
or things of that nature like what i went through wasn't anything bad - because he didnt experience what i experienced yet they make it seem like what i went through wasnt so bad;

wait, i almost died several times, thats not bad? beat all the time? didnt have good parents i could get comfort from? hmmm... assholes