I've never ever talked about abuse before with anyone other than my therapist. I've even been asked directly several times as an adult by people who suspected that I had been because of issues i have and lied and said no.

I have a best friend who has even admitted being molested by a step-brother. She has a great family who stopped it, took her to counseling, and all that. I never told her anything about me.

I really want to take the steps and tell her about me, the abuse, and my disorders (namely only my eating disorders..the others will have to be kept secret). My fears are that:
1. She will be freaked out knowing im a bulimic
2. She will be freaked out to visit my parents knowing things that happened.
3. She will draw away thinking that Im in too much pain or messed up.
4. I will be freaked out by telling her.

Its amazing that I am eve considering this.. If anyone has ever told anyone other than a therapist.. how did you do it? How did you know it was time to tell? Is it too much to tell her about the abuse and the eating disorder? HELP ...Advise please !

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