story of my life when people say things like that. i cannot tell you how many times i've been told the past is the past, let it go and move on, just don't think about it, think positive, do this, this, or this to help yourself, and other things that completely minimize my feelings and experiences.

i have also had things i struggled with called phases or told i only had them because i watched too much on TV or read too much online. nope. none of it was/is a phase.

i now just roll my eyes if people say ignorant things and try to remind myself they haven't lived my life and aren't in my head so can't possibly understand...so i try to forgive them for their ignorance and keep focusing on what i need to do for myself and overall mental health.