I know we're not Woody Allen fans here, but a line from Annie Hall i think sticks with me: "as long as there is one miserable person in the world, i cant be happy." So along the same lines, its two things for me - i dont want any of my younger relatives to see it as an option because of my example; and as long as there is someone who i could help, its kinda my duty to stay. So its not so much, or just, who i affect by leaving, but who i could have affected by staying. You never know. Obviously i think pretty highly of my potential, because my reality is crap.