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Originally Posted by Gs550
I just need some reassurance. My best friend, who I've known for 3+ years and talked to about everything, finally got sick of me complaining. He cut me off suddenly, but then yesterday we talked. Or rather, he said a bunch of really hurtful stuff.
He told me my problems are all of my own making and I'm not trying hard enough, that he understands why people don't want to be friends with me and more. This is a complete turnaround from his supportive role.
I'm really hurt, can't stop crying, and now I'm doubting myself and feeling even more insecure. I just need to hear something nice.
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Do you have other friends? Do you have any friend who plays a neutral, rather than supportive, role with respect to you? Better yet, do you have a friend whom you support? You will feel more secure if you give, rather than receive, support now because your friend said hurtful things about how you were in the role of a receiver of support. I think it is best not to seek another supportive friend but to switch roles and have a neutral or a reverse relationship with somebody else.
Crying is good - it means that you won't harbor those emotions for later when they can become a depressed mood, but express them now.