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Originally Posted by IchbinkeinTeufel
Although I appreciate the desire to be straight with people, I agree with John here, HT. It's pretty much what I was thinking once I read your post.
If you really feel that form of communication is necessary, perhaps it could be taken to an alternative place. I honestly don't think it's necessary though. Personally, if I feel the need to tell somebody something and can't be thoughtful and/or compassionate about it, then it's probably best left unsaid.
I think the forum wouldn't be all that safe as a result of being left unfiltered.
You say you want to be in a public place in which you can take a person's point of view into consideration, but you don't need one forum for that, or even anything specific. You can do that anywhere—I'm taking your view into consideration right now, and I'm being honest as well. 
I think there may lie a deeper issue here with regards to how you feel about communication with people, as one might infer from the part regarding acceeding to people.
Please understand that you typically never have to comply with someone's view. If you've been given new information that has shown you a different way of thinking to which you can then move, then that's okay. However, just because an individual has an opinion that you two don't share, doesn't mean you're therefore obliged to change your views or pretend you agree with them. Our differences, in my opinion, are part of what make us so vibrant as a species.
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Thanks for your post and point of view.
I've written this in other places on PC but I'll repeat it here. I've been in and out of therapy for more than 50 years, for 17 years almost continuously since my late husband died and for 6 years most recently with a specialist in trauma and dissociation. While the last therapist helped a lot with the trauma issues, she was not able to help with personality disorder issues ("not otherwise specified", none of the specific ones).
Lots of reasons why that may have been the case -- maybe partly because of how long the trauma went with effective treatment.
The point is, I and some other people diagnosed with personality disorders, posting in the Personality Place forum agree that we would like a "tell it like it is" forum or perhaps a social group that people have to join. We are people who acknowledge that we have problems getting along in the world and with other people. But, after that, it's not so simple. I think lots of folks would agree that people WITH personality disorders and those without process things differently. Problem is, we have to START with where we are. PC certainly doesn't have to agree to my/our request. But, so far, the fact that several people with different personality disorders have formed what seems at this point to be a functioning alliance toward better mental health is an enormous plus for PC. So, I would ask again that you consider the request in that light.
For me, for example, in my social relationships I have tended toward the ability to be "all about you" or "all about me". What you have written that I "Please understand" is something I can certainly understand intellectually, detached from my emotions. But that's not the same as understanding in a social situation where I do have emotions. And for that, I feel that I need practice in a safe place. Looked and looked in the real world, doesn't exist there, either. Because of the anonymity of PC it feels safer to me than the real world.