Thanks all. Went to the Dr. well it happened to be a pa that looked me over. She said I didn't tear but looked very pink and irritated and should lay off the sex for a little less than a week which works out fine because my bf goes to mass general for somet testing for his epilepsy to see if he's a candidate for surgery. Also to use lots of lubricant like KY jelly when we do have sex where he seems to be pretty well endowed.