Hi, and thanks for reading this!

I am supposed to be getting married in 2 months, and I just don't know if it's the right thing for us to do.

He really wants to get married, and has for a few months, but I feel like it's mostly because his family wants him to.

We've been together for a year now, and he is a really lovely and loyal person, and I love him for that. But he is always talking about wanting to move, and I have a business that is growing where we live now. I would lose everything if we just up and moved, just because he thinks it might be better somewhere else!

I get the feeling that he really doesn't know what he wants to be doing (except for getting married. That seems to be an absolute must). I mean, I understand wanting to be growing as a person and all that, but he just seems to have half cocked ideas about stuff. He doesn't know if he wants kids, but if we do have them, they have to be raised in a religious setting (I'm completely not religious, and he knows this). I don't want to have kids unless he gets a really good job (we both do freelance work right now, which works fine as long as there is no one that needs support).

He also has this idea that if we move to Europe, that everything would magically be better. Call me crazy, but I would only ever want to make a big move like that if one of us actually had a really good job lined up over there!

It just seems to me like we should have some of this stuff worked out before we tie the knot, so to speak. Otherwise, it seems like there would be trouble down the road.

What do you think? Am I just trying to avoid commitment (this is what he thinks), or are these valid points that should be worked out before marriage? I would really like to hear your take on it. I just feel so conflicted!