Thank you Moogs, hvert, Tishabuv, Susanemily, Bill, Fharriage and Trippin for your replies, and validation. It's good to know that it seems like I'm not just avoiding commitment, and that I am doing my best to make a mature decision.

There are 2 sides to every story like this, and I'm sure if he was to tell what was going on from his point of view, it would sound like a different relationship altogether. Communication is definitely tough (for most of us), and I think seeing a counselor together could help, and I've asked him to find one. He did, one that is a 3 hour drive away. It just seems that he wants to do things in the least practical way possible.

And yes Bill, I agree, there is a lot of pressure. In my experience, that is how a lot of relationships are.

I guess I'm just feeling like maybe it's now or never. I'm mid 30's, I've dated a lot, had a few serious relationships. Maybe this is as good as it gets?

I'll keep you all posted here. Thanks again for all of your insight and comments. They are so so much appreciated!