I agree that marriages take work, but from two people. If she were having a problem in our marriage dont you think it would have been up to her to come to me instead of just turning her back on me and doing what she is doing. My goodness you make it sound like I was the one doing the cheating. Like I am the bad guy in this situation. Not that it much matters what I say because from the PMs I have recieved I have been made out to sound like some kind of monster, like I would beat my wife or yell and scream at her, I am sick to death from this because I am living a lie and pretending that I haven't a clue what she is doing. I am absolutely heartbroken over this. And yet I still love her. Does anybody have a clue how much it hurts laying beside someone you love and not being able to get close to them? And on top of that I have to assume that it was something I did to drive her away from me. But without knowing me or her how could any of you presume to know anything about our lives so it was wrong for me to come here and post this question wasn't it!