Hi VirginiaMorning

It sounds like you're handling the pushiness of Karen well. You've been gracious and kind, and also put up boundaries, so that she can't invite herself, try as she might!

Reciprocity is most definitely a vital part of any relationship. I don't think the days of that are over. Some people have absolutely no manners, and were raised to believe, or somehow came to believe that everyone owes them something.

Whenever I'm being social, I always come across genuine kind people, as well as selfish jerks. I've learned to be very protective and private of my self and resources (such as my home), and will only offer friendship and open my home to people who I have met in a neutral setting (such as a panera, or other social setting), and gotten to know them first. That way, if they turn out to be selfish, the only thing I've "wasted" is my time, and not my energy or feelings.

Hope that makes sense! You sound like a lovely person, and I'm sorry you're having to go through this!