I also had a whole series of therapists who said such stupid things! My h and i just started counseling together with a CBT we really like.

I had several boy friends before marrying and none of those relationships had pressure. The reason they ended were because either I broke up, deciding I didn't want to marry them or they broke up with me for reasons I don't even know (they were players?).

My marriage developed an intimacy issue, otherwise it's a really good relationship.
Geez, did I really just say that? I nearly killed myself a dozen times over this man and this problem! Don't mean to hijack the thread, but wow.

So you are attracting pressure. Thinking about why is a good starting point.

I'm glad you are putting on the brakes. You may see his true colors come out now that you are doing that and putting off the wedding. Don't let him bully you. It may get ugly.

And don't go to a t 3 hours away. That's pointless. Find one closer.