I did actually remind him about this woman and he said it was different as we weren't married then, I'm as sure as I can be that they were above board.

I won't give you flack, that's your opinion about opposite sex friends and maybe you're right. I have quite a few friends who are men but best I can describe is brotherly/sisterly feelings - this friend though is different in that we are closer, I didn't tell most of my friends about MH issues for example.