Actually it's strange you should pick up on that, I didn't mention in my post but my husband has on a couple of occasions been very ungenerous about the different physical appearance of my friend - it's fuelled by jealousy but it made me cringe. He has gone back on his words when he cooled down. He's no Trump thank goodness but yes I know what you mean.

Going places with this friend has been a real eye opener, I truly did not realise how many people look at you differently when you don't look 'standard' for want of a better word.