From my experience I really lucked out with someone who is attentive. However, it goes both ways, as he also has depression and medical issues.

People don't seem to want to be around people who are depressed. Whether it's a problem with society as a whole I don't know. Everybody is trying to cheer us up instead of understanding, and give up when we don't snap back into whatever normal is.

I hope you do find a way to get him to understand you.