Hello understandmoon: I'm sorry you are having so much difficulty with your family members. Family relationships can be such a challenge! Realistically I don't have any suggestions to offer you as far as how to deal with them. From my perspective this is something that you might want to work on, over time, with the help of a counselor or therapist, if you have the ability to see one. It would take time & effort to figure out ways in which you can deal effectively with the situations you describe. Ultimately, your decision to save up to move out on your own may well be the best way to resolve these problems.

Is it you & are your issues even big? Well... as the old saying goes... it takes two to tango. So, sure, there may be some things you're doing that are contributing to these problems. (This is where a counselor or therapist could potentially be particularly helpful.) But I'm also quite certain it's not all you. And, to some extent, it doesn't matter whether or not your issues are big. The fact is they are disturbing to you. And that in-&-of itself is reason enough to try to figure out some way to resolve them. I wish you well...