I apologize, it is late and I was only able to read half your post as I am tired. I will finish later after sleep. What I got so far is that this person is new and may have not worked out their own stuff. My big question is if this person is doing their own therapy or having supervision?

You are not to blame for wanting to change, or be guilted or shamed (this is how I saw the T response to you). You have a right to validation.

I saw a Jungian T a few years ago, was my favorite all time T. Sadly she could not handle my trauma history, so I had to leave. Her response was "forget about it and go to college." Well, it's 10 years later, I'm finally in college, but forgetting about it may never happen.