Darke, I'm sorry my post upset you and made you feel like the villain. That wasn't my intent at all.

All I was saying was that communication is hard yet has to be worked at in a relationship. If both parties were able to do that then there wouldn't be a problem that couldn't be worked out.

Sometimes one partner needs to pick up the slack in that department and start the conversation. I don't know why your wife didn't come to you to discuss this with you.

Your original post did not say alot. So unfortunately, people do have to assume a little bit in order to respond. If you think we are barking up the wrong tree, then maybe a little more info from you would be helpful.

I do have a clue on how it hurts to lie next to the one you love and have no closeness or connection with them. You are the one assuming that you did something to drive her away, not I. I said in my post I didn't know if it was her issue alone that has made her go to the internet or a problem within your marriage...I did NOT assume it was you.

I can see that you are hurting. I can see that you are angry. I'm sorry that you are having to endure this stuff. I know it's not easy.

You don't have to live a lie Darke....you can tell her you know what is going on. Maybe that will open up some kind of dialoge between the 2 of you. Of course, it's completely up to you how you deal with it.

Again, Darke, I'm sorry that the responses were not exactly what you were looking for. If you are willing to work on the communication...please post again and let us know how you are, what you are feeling. I don't know what kind of pm's you received, but only with open communication can anyone help another.....we don't know if you don't say.

I do wish you well. Take good care of YOU.

Hugsss
sabby