Quote:
Originally Posted by Scotch
Ouch, apologies. Didn't mean to imply that we felt attacked when you voiced your opinion.
|
I didn't feel that way but candidly, until I've read a hundred or so posts by a person I run into on a psych forum, I err on the side of eggshell walking. Kind of operate off the idea of 'First, do no harm."
Quote:
Originally Posted by Scotch
And really? Would imagine that it's a bit strange if someone would be talking to you as if your other happened to be there and there would be an awkward moment if they weren't. (For us anyway. "Oh sorry, he's asleep. It's just me.")
|
Amen to that.
Quote:
Originally Posted by Scotch
That's so sweet. We're similar in the aspect of that. As the host, I've told the other two that I would take a bullet for either one of them if I would have to but they would always deflect the compliment by saying "Please don't." as it would obviously harm all of us. (It's the thought that counts?)
|
I would absolutely agree that it's the thought that counts. There is an old saying, "Be careful of what you say because you are listening." How much more true is this with multiples? She knows that I will throw myself under the bus for her. I'll embarrass myself, be willing to humiliate myself, etc., if it would serve her - and once I became willing to do so, she made sure I never had to.
I think that's a major point hidden in what I said earlier - I talk about her not because anyone else needs to know, but she needs to know that I am not ashamed or embarrassed by her. Granted, she knows that now and maybe I could stop - but my wife knows I love her and I haven't stopped telling her that I love her either.
Quote:
Originally Posted by Scotch
No really- Thank you for taking time out of your day to post your said thoughts. The only opinions that we're pretty open to hearing these days are from those who are like well- us.  |
Not sure that I added anything in this post that was worth hearing - just have enjoyed the conversation and your posts and wanted to nurture a continued connection.