in my first marriage my husband did not understand. He had obvious mental health issues himself but wouldn't accept them and he had no sympathy or even understanding for depressives. He would scream, yell and belittle me....always calling me "lazy". He really was/is incapable of understanding the struggles of others. He has too many issues himself which prevent him from seeing the suffering depression causes. He's too self centered amongst other things. So yes, some people are incapable of understanding. Heck, I have depression and I don't fully understand it....I call myself lazy and worthless....if I deal with it and can't understand, how do I expect people who've never dealt with it to behave, ya know?

My second marriage has restored my faith in humanity. My husband gets frustrated and doesn't always say the perfect thing, but he truly tries his best to listen and be supportive. It makes a world of difference.

Have you tried printing out some literature on depression and having your husband read up on it? Or find a website with a good explanation and have him read it? like the above poster mentioned, perhaps you could take him to a doctor and have them explain it.

Let your husband know that his lack of understanding hurts you. (((Hugs)))