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Old Oct 22, 2016, 11:18 PM
CrimsonKing CrimsonKing is offline
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Sadly she never agrees to counseling. I asked if she wanted to spend some time together this last weekend. She said that it would be okay. Then early the next morning, the day that I was supposed to pick her up, she said that she couldn't make it because she was sick. I ended up in the hospital a few weeks ago, I was having some numbness and pains. I have a problem with my heart so I called her in case something happened. She called me the next day and said that I shouldn't be alone right now and that she was coming to stay and we would work out things. Instead of the day she waited to show up that night. She spent the night and the next day she rented a storage unit and asked me to help her get the rest of her things. When she finally decided to talk about our relationship, she just said that she wasn't interested in coming back and she was going to stay where she is. She then said that she would eventually find a job there near her sister and get her own place. I just asked where does that leave me, what about us? She said that she didn't know, but she doesn't want a divorce and she doesn't want me going anywhere. I have to admit that this tore my heart into shreds. She went back into the house and I stayed sitting there thinking. I just started crying and I couldn't stop. When she came back outside and saw me. She just said that she was sorry that I was sad. Then went back into the house and started bringing out the things she brought with her to stay over. She said to take her back to her sister's. If I ever see her we may only speak mostly about trivial things. I usually have no one on one time with her because she is surrounded by her sister and her sister's family. She basically ignores me while I'm there so I usually just end it by saying that I have to go. The last time that I was there I brought her a check that she received in the mail. She asked if I would take her to get it cashed. She bought herself a new dress, pointed out that she had just bought herself some "sexy" boots. Her words to describe her boots. And said that the new hair color was something that she just decided to do. I just had a talk with her the night before about us not cheating on each other while we're in this separation. But I'm starting to wonder if she's not thinking about trying to find someone else with what she's doing. Also a salesman at the store where she got her dress. The salesman was selling pillows and for stopping and talking to him. He started telling us about a new company offering a sober ride to people. He said that it's good if you're at a party or bar and you need a ride. Usually she would say well I don't drink anyway. But instead she kept asking questions about it and kept asking if they offer the ride for that town. All of this just adds to my doubts of her trying to help fix our relationship. But also makes me wonder if she's planning on being unfaithful. Maybe I should just ask for a divorce and try to heal. I stay very lonely and restless too but I don't consider being unfaithful to her.
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