Thanks, those sound like really good and caring ideas, but my mother is a difficult case. She never cultivated any friendships, was always reticent about meeting new people and is just not social. We hired someone to come in a couple of times a week, but they weren't a good fit for her, and I've had a social worker come for 3 or 4 visits and she rec a psyche evalutation, but my mother refused.
She complains that her hair is a mess, so I found someone to come in and do it for her, and she complained about that too. Too further exacerbate the situation, she's hard of hearing and when I took her for a new hearing aid, she was advised that she should really have two because of her hearing loss, and she refused to have 2 so she can't hear well and that makes phone conversations with us, or anyone, a real trial. It's frustrating for her and for us, but she makes choices that are bad and we all suffer from it.
She really has NO clue about real life. She asks for something and it appears, she doesn't realize that either my brother or I have to make a trip to buy what she wants. That's because my father took care of everything, even the grocery shopping after he retired.
She complains that everything she eats has either too much sodium or is too sweet and it makes her burn and swell. It's hard to find her food that she is satisfied with. She used to love to read, but now she says she can't get interested in books or tv shows. (another sign of depression) so all she does is sit around and dwell on how badly she feels. She wont read a book but she'll read the side effects on her medications, and worries about them and/or the miligrams of her medicine is too high, etc.
She has me and my bro tearing out our hair.