Demi- I don't think there is anything wrong with getting to know someone before having sexual attraction. So you also said you don't like vaginal sex. Are you still a virgin ? Are you comfortable with oral sex but not penetration ? Do you not like your body touched at all ? I'm the last person to define normal. I'm a sexual masochist. I went to a sex therapist for three weeks and although I didn't find it helpful it may answer some of your questions. I don't think what you have said here is unworkable with the right partner,patience and maybe an open mind with a sex therapist. Good luck.