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Originally Posted by Rose76
When I was in an Intensive Outpatient Treatment program (12 years ago,) I brought him in for some couple's counseling with my psychiatrist. She asked him how he managed to put up with me. He replied that he just let whatever I said go over his head. My pdoc responded that "Yeah, that's pretty much what you'ld have to do." This doctor seemed to think I was just a pain in the *****.
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That's crazy unsympathetic treatment. That from a professional?
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I am content in his company when I feel okay, mentally, which is a lot of the time. But when I am depressed, I'm better off alone. Like he told that pdoc, he just tunes me out when I'm not upbeat. It feels very isolating. He just finds something to watch on TV and gives it his complete attention. He has told me he has no idea how to help anyone who is depressed. When a person wants to stay stupid about something, there is no penetrating that wall of ignorance.
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And he doesn't think he could learn how to help, either?
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Originally Posted by Rose76
People say he is so lucky to have me. He'll agree with them, now and then . . . but not when we're alone. If the dinner I cook doesn't come out perfect, he won't pretend to be pleased with it.
He says I shouldn't get mad at him because, "It's not like I beat you."
That's true he has never beaten me. What more could I possibly want in a man?
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I agree with others here that this is no good. It sounds like an extremely cynical comment, really. It even sounds subtly abusive, in the way I imagine the tone/situation. I could be wrong about that latter part and he could just be really insensitive and disinterested / as a defense mechanism too perhaps. Still no good. My thoughts on this is, don't let him convince you that this is acceptable just because he doesn't beat up you. If you accept it it should not be because he manipulates you into that.
This is my strong conviction about this.