Now who is in who's head?

I made the same statement to my ex; that he would die a sick, lonely man. There's no satisfaction in that prophecy now, though.

I used to badmouth him to my kids in my effort to make them see that he really wasn't a good father and for them to watch themselves. Finally, one of them told me "You know, Mom. We know Dad is an as$hole, but he's OUR as$hole, so just please stop talking bad about him to us or in front of us." Was that ever an awakening! I stopped.

Exactly, Jean, it's Human Compassion I feel for him. I would have felt the same way no matter who it was that had walked through that door like he did. The only difference here is that my oldest son shared with me his concern for his dad and the hate that he feels for his dad's wife. There's a long line of people that feel the way we do.

It must be that what I saw affects my kids so much that it has intensified my compassion for him... and for my kids.

My ex's youngest daughter was close friends with my youngest for a while. Just remembered that last night. It's no wonder that it affects my youngest, too. My ex has always been fair with my youngest. There was a time that I hated and resented the fact that he called him "son." Didn't claim him as such, but included him when he was around my other two.

Oh, GEEEEZZZZZZZZZZ!!!!! What a tangled web! We'll get through this, somehow.