this after I helped my 18 year old son get a used car. Here is the background. My son 18 and a senior in high school. Has went through three cars. 1st car an older Blazer that he just was too hard on. The second car was my Grand Am that a friend of his rear ended and totaled. After insurance my son pressured me into getting a car that my hubby didn't want him to have. Engine blew. My son has been driving my hubbies S-10 for the past year and isn't taking care of it. It wasn't that great in the first place but my son is sending it to an early grave. My hubby says he needs to drive it till it drops but complains that my son is tearing it up. My son kept begging me to help him get a new car that he is embarressed to drive the truck and people make fun of him. So I tried to talk to hubby about getting son a different car but hubby just shut me down with "I don't want to talk about it". I got a loan ($3300) for a car but I'm paying for it with child support until my son finishes wrestling and gets a job. The payment is no big deal.
His son, 13 is in trouble with the courts for assault. This is his second one along with a possession charge a while back. He has already been suspended 10 days this school year. If he gets in trouble one more time at school, he is outta there. I decided he needs counceling and we have been going to the past three weeks. He also is a habitual liar and steals things from the house and has this obsession with my underwear. I won't say what he did with the last pair that I found.
Hubby wants a divorce becuase of the car loan and that he is tired of all the crap. He says he loves me but thinks a divorce is the only solution. I know I'm hard on his son. It makes me so angry that he gets by with all that he does. His bedroom is a total disaster. I don't mean normal teenage sloppy stuff. He has made holes in the walls and in his mattress. There are black marks, I guess from shoes, on his walls. He has taken a knife and carved into his night stand. He not only does distructive things at home but also at his grand parents house. Cutting their carpet, carving into bedroom furniture (cuss words).
Still I don't want my hubby to leave me. Any advice?

Thanks