I've been dealing alot with issues because my wife and I are separated and she doesn't try to help work on saving the marriage. But recently another thought has come to me. A man knocked on my door the other day to serve a court summons to my wife because she hasn't paid a medical bill that she owes. When he asked if she was here I told him no, that she had left me over a month ago. After the man left, I called my wife to tell her about the summons. She asked me what I had told the man. I told her that I had told him that, "you had left me over a month ago." Her reply was, "why didn't you just tell him that we are separated." It was then that I realized that maybe this whole thing may not be a separation. Her lack of trying to communicate and lack of trying to reconcile. Maybe I actually said the exact thing by saying that she left me. She was having a hard time with things before she left. Her brother and sister in law had asked her if she wanted to come and spend a little time at their place to relax and recoup. She left to go there and then ended up going over to her sister's house right after. Then she informed me that she wasn't coming back. My wife and I never agreed on a separation at all. It just happened exactly like that. Now with her being gone and me trying everything that I know to try to keep my marriage from ending I have to realize that I may not be dealing with a separation but an abandonment. I've been through every emotion possible I believe in trying to figure out how to make things work between us. The loneliness and restlessness is the worst. It always leaves me feeling so defeated and empty. Should I just consider that she decided to leave me instead of separate? How do I go on?