I am sorry, I am in a shaky marriage (my second), so I feel your pain. It is hard for me to offer emotional support as I am unable to figure my domestic life out. Being alone sucks and it is my biggest fear, but if she left you than there is nothing you can do but hope. Do not pay her debt, to expect she might come back because if you do that will keep her away even more. So the issue of the separation/abandonment...This seems like a legal question? Am I right? You are afraid to be on the hook for her debt? You are not but some lawyer/debt collector might want to harass you and pretend that you are. Ask some professional because I am not a lawyer...
Money is a big problem, and it is increasingly a problem with metal illness...medical bills, gambling, sucky job market(even job discrimination) are all an added burden.
If she left you, you have a right to question the semantics but either it is a separation or abandonment it makes no difference only in the eyes of the law. (if you are asking this before talking with a divorce lawyer)?
Just my 2 cents....
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