I have very strong feelings about drugging children-- only in extreme cases do I see it necessary-- so I won't recommend anything in that regard.(there are no long term studies as to the side effects such drugs have on growing bodies-- that really concerns me) With that said-- my youngest son was diagnosed with ADD- struggled with behavior problems, attention span, failing grades etc....

He was on strattera for a few years(I didn't know then what I know now).... but I missed his fun side, his creativity seemed to be gone too, though his attention improved as well as his grades and his behavior was much more obedient. After a few years, at 14 we changed the med to Adderal(sp?)...... it was a mistake. It wasn't the right med for him as his symptoms worsened. So, as a family, we decided to go without meds. I turned to a support site on the internet, it was very helpful to read about other parents that were going through similar. And they had many great ideas. Also I was in therapy at this time,(for something totally separate) and the psychologist gave me some ideas on talking with my son and helping him to feel heard. I also color coded his subjects for school-- like math was the red notebook and red book cover, english was the green spiral and the green book cover etc...-- and had a weekly report that the teachers sent home with him on Friday so we could keep track of all his assignments and tests.
It's much extra work to parent an ADD/ADHD child but I believe it can be done and often without meds. One has to be involved constantly-- I mean constantly-- all the way to the day they graduate.... and it's not easy.

If you want you can PM me and I'll give you more detailed info.

Good luck to you and your son.

mandy